Thoughts…

  My brain screams, “Woman, get your ISH* together!” I have got to be organized, prepared and have my head about me, if I am going to do this single momma journey in any way beneficial. I have chosen to leave chaos and abuse behind. Yet, I’m stepping into a path of alot of uncertainty. But seriously, think about it, coming home to a drunk every day is uncertain. Not knowing how they are going to respond to you at any given moment is uncertain. Not being able to depend on them to take the kids to practice because they came home early and decided to start drinking is uncertain. Not being able to pay rent because they are resitant to learning how to manage money is uncertain.

So WOMAN STEP UP! You have the strength to do this. Get a day planner and write down your schedule don’t leave anything out. The visual and the ability to cross off tasks will make it manageable. Plan ahead… whats the saying? “Those who DON’T plan, plan to Fail!” Well, Momma you can’t afford to fail; your littles are looking to you for consistency, strength, calm, and peace. Yes, it’s all on you to provide that. BUT (this is a really big but!) YOU ARE NOT ALONE! I moved across the country away from all my family, my friends, my securities. My Faith in Christ alone is holding me together. I have watched time and time again God provide and change the circumstances of my reality. I do what I know I need to do and HE is there carrying me and giving me the grace to do it all.

So, my word of advice to all those mommas out there doing it solo… Get your ISH* together. Here are three things I consider a must:

1. WRITE it down. Your schedule, your shopping list, your menu, your list of things to do.

2. PLAN ahead. I don’t care if you have to do this while you sit on the toilet or on your phone before you fall asleep. Make a plan and stick to it. Prepare the night before (I know you are F***ing exhausted!!) but, trust me this 5 minutes of laying out clothes and shoes and yes the SOCKS, will make your entire day go more smoothe.

3. Cry in the shower. Keep it together until you are alone and just cry it out. THEN, pray and praise your Savior. Your mood will change and you will feel lighter, I swear!

Momma you got this; the hard season of being solo, is better then any F’d up abusive marriage any day!